You must set the boundary for your life. People are remarkably adaptive. If you don’t plan your life, others will.
Here is an example. I have the TYM project with a senior MG: the only thing he did was checking the grammars. Yet, because I willingly played the role of juniors, the normal game between seminar and junior workers, MG played his part to: they say they have great expectation of you. What they really mean is that they will do almost nothing but want to slave you.
So I decided to reset the expectation by playing the game a bit differently. Here is the series of email exchanges in the last a few days.
Hey, L – just checking in. Paper was to go out in Nov, Dec, Jan… Almost March!
We going to get it under submission?
I have several pending revision going on. So I won’t be able to work on it for at least a month.
If you are in the hurry, here is the latest version that you can work on.
I haven’t heard from him since. Expectation reset?
A side note. In signaling games, actions must be credible in order to signal (often go with costs others are unwilling to bear). The purpose is to change/sharpen the belief of the rival. Maybe this is the underlying logic for my action.
RUN: 2.3MILES, 15MIN;
EMAIL L.G. ABOUT AO AND CONTINUOUS CASE;
TYM: PUSH BACK M.G., TOLD HIM IF HE WANTS NOW, DO IT HIMSELF;
GROUP MEETING AT 10AM;
LUNCH WITH HBL AND YL AT ROYAL THAI, 1PM-2PM;
L.G. IS ONBOARD; THIS WILL MAKE THE MATTER EASIER.
[DAYTON, OH, WINTER, 2007]
I must wrap up the TYM project this week. There is no new stuff we can do. As it stands as a boundary case. But until we get the first verdict, we never know exactly where we stand.
I have a more urgent reason, though. There are several other projects waiting to be finalized: AO, TQ2, and the revision of MRF. Each of them will take at least a week; MRF will take two weeks. So my best hope is to push out all of them this month. That requires a tight working schedule, but it is doable.
More importantly, I have my credibility at stake: both AO and KK rely on me to make the cut. They need the papers badly for promotion. They have done their part. Now it is my turn to conclude.
For TYM, here are four remaining tasks: 1) rewrite the introduction, 2) literature review, 3) data analysis (mainly bubble maps), and 4) conclusion.
Focus on each task. Finish them one by one. This project will not make or breach you. Just get it done.
[LAKE PERRIS, CA]
RUN: 1.95MILES, 9MPH, 13MIN;
SWIM: 20R, 30MIN;
WRITE: TYM, 2HRS;
DO LANDRY, 1HR;
I LOVE IROBOT VACUUM; IT’S A HANDY LITTLE BEAST.
[SAN DIEGO, CA, 12/17/2009]
RUN: 11MIN, 9MPH, 1.6MILES;
LEARN: LUENBERGER, 1.5HRS, FINISH CHAPTER 6;
WRITE: TYM, PELICAN, 3HRS;
SHOPPING AT THE DISTRICT, TUSTIN, \$660, 4HRS;
BOUGHT IROBOT 655 VACUUM CLEANING ROBOT (TRY TOMORROW),
FINALLY GET ONTO DECO.
[IT RAINS IN SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA, CA]
RUN: 9MPH, 10MIN, 1.5MILES;
WRITE: TYM, NEED BUBBLE MAP, PELICAN, 9-12PM;
READ: BOOK—THE PRACTICING MIND;
THE BOOK CONFIRMS MY EXPERIENCE.