BE YOUR BEST SELF

I have seen enough, the highs and lows. Now it is the time to get your act together and work out your best self. Your baby girl is coming. You need to step up your game to be a father. You want to raise her in your image. So tough up and do your best.

1089.9.10M

1089.9.10M:
7am, check my calf tease problem (need 6 weeks before running, 12 weeks for complete recovery);

DSM: it has been too long. Must get it done in a week, by 9.17.

Also, I need to take care of merit case, the BA ads, and course forms.

merit

I should not get upset by these trivialities. In the end, who give a fuck.

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I am trying to understand the logic of these guidelines. The school has decided/practiced that each premium paper warrants one merit (provided satisfactory teaching and service). If multi-year acceleration is discouraged, however, unfair outcome will arise:

(A) Faculty A publishes 3 premiums in two years, but all in year 2. So he can only get one merit, because multi-year acceleration is discouraged.

(B) Faculty B publishes 3 premiums in three years, say year 1, 2, 3 each. Then he can get three merits by three one-year accelerations.

We all agree faculty A outperforms B, yet B gets three times rewards. Is this fair? Is this what we really want?

The purpose of the merit is to reward true excellence, not a tool for gaming the system. So it should be fair, not just in name, but also in essence. If the school truly values excellence, as a policy/consensus, it should encourage multi-year acceleration to ensure fairness.

self

Here is the deal. You are not borne diligent. So you must work to cultivate the habit. That means, you must work against your instinct nature, because you are naturally lazy. Once you have the doubt, think about jogging: yes, it is painful to do it, but it is even more painful to regret. Given the two evils, pick the lesser.

The main reason of depression is the loss of hope, not just the on-going reality. To get out depression, you must act, no matter how discomfort it is. The tolerance of discomfort is one quality you must develop.

Keep that in mind.

Plan month 16.251.

[LIFE]
    build 10h routine: learn 1h, exercise 1h, work 6h, read 1h, and write 1h;
    write a post per day;
    find C a job;
    home deco: finish order furniture, by 1.31.2017;
    call mom once a week;
    plan the trip next month;
    car service, 4h;
    clean up the closet, 4h;
    clean up the house, 4h;
    clean up the mails, 2h;

[HEALTH]
    pickup contact lens;
    research Lasik surgery;
    get rid of coffee, ham, alcohol, and overeating;

[FINANCE]
    upgrade money market saving account;
    cancel macy’s credit card. \$4 fee per month;
    buy oliver black division II field jacket (M) by rag \& bones;
    change the phone plan, 2h;
    cancel Cox. \$97 per month;

[SOCIAL]
    try a new thing, broaden experiences, once a week;
    meet people from MEETUP, REDIT, LINKEDIN;
    go basketball;
    go to econ seminar once a month;

[WORK]
    learn: Corbe, 2h per day, 100hrs;
    MRF: follow up the submission;
    SMI: work out the model, email Liang, 4w;
    MHS: plan for numerical study, position the paper, 2day;
    TQ2: revision, weekly meeting, .5h*3;
    POMS: review, 6h;
    Encro: 1w for editing;
    submit the abstract meeting for POMS in Seattle 1h;
    go through all the printed papers in the garage .5h

[SCHOOL]
    remove the requirement for M239, revise the requirement as capstone type, 4h;
    review hiring, 2h;
    EC meeting, 2 days;
    hiring meeting, 1.20;
    merit:  ask B. to remind silent. The trouble of Rv.;
    ask WSZ PHD in markeitng for lunch/coffee;

REFLECTION 1

I must ask myself the hard question.

At the end of the day, how do you want to be remembered? What is your legacy?

Get real. You know your problem. You had a whole year to pursue what you believe. What is the outcome? Is that what you want?

Be effective. Do what is necessary, not what you like. There are things you hate but necessary. Do it anyway when you have to. You must develop this capacity.

You question now is not how to execute. Rather, given the limited resource, what is your priority? What is your direction?

It boils down to two things, career and family. It’s time to settle down. How should I proceed? You know your choices, CZL, TL, CL. Do you have time for another adventure? You have seen enough. Take the best option. You don’t have much choice left.

So what to do next? Need to execute one by one?

A detour on glamor. You cannot just chase glamor at the expense of other aspects. This has been your main problem.

Glamor is a misleading criterion. Everybody loves glamor. But the real question is, how much would you like to pay for it? Do you really want to put up with all the trouble, for the sake of glamor? Isn’t glamor another variant of vanity?

Maybe I don’t value relations that much? Your behavior is a better prediction of your future. So what makes you truly gratifying?

Raise a kid is worthwhile, if romance is not your destiny. So get real.

To experience it deeply, you must commit. Otherwise, you won’t feel the same. Will reading help me? Maybe. But it won’t be a lot.

In 2016, I can excuse out the plan I committed to. I can take the hardship, whenever necessary. So you have what it takes. The question is, what’s your goal?

You can have all tactics right, but what is your goal? How do you keep your vision?