You must set the boundary for your life. People are remarkably adaptive. If you don’t plan your life, others will.
Here is an example. I have the TYM project with a senior MG: the only thing he did was checking the grammars. Yet, because I willingly played the role of juniors, the normal game between seminar and junior workers, MG played his part to: they say they have great expectation of you. What they really mean is that they will do almost nothing but want to slave you.
So I decided to reset the expectation by playing the game a bit differently. Here is the series of email exchanges in the last a few days.
Hey, L – just checking in. Paper was to go out in Nov, Dec, Jan… Almost March!
We going to get it under submission?
I have several pending revision going on. So I won’t be able to work on it for at least a month.
If you are in the hurry, here is the latest version that you can work on.
I haven’t heard from him since. Expectation reset?
A side note. In signaling games, actions must be credible in order to signal (often go with costs others are unwilling to bear). The purpose is to change/sharpen the belief of the rival. Maybe this is the underlying logic for my action.